Licensed Therapist • Podcaster • Educator

Duane Osterlind, LMFT

Helping people heal from addiction, shame, and betrayal trauma through evidence-based therapy, the Top-100 mental health podcast The Addicted Mind, and the Shame to Resilience workshop for men.

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Duane Osterlind, LMFT — therapist and podcast host in Garden Grove, California

About Duane

A therapist's mission to turn shame into resilience.

Duane Osterlind is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CSAT-S) with more than 15 years of clinical experience. He is the co-founder and clinical director of Novus Mindful Life Institute, a counseling practice specializing in sex and pornography addiction, infidelity, and betrayal trauma recovery, based in Garden Grove, California and serving clients throughout Orange County, Long Beach, and via secure telehealth across California, Idaho, Florida, Texas, and Virginia.

Duane hosts The Addicted Mind Podcast, recognized as one of the Top 100 Mental Health Podcasts, where he explores the science of addiction, recovery, and lasting change. He is also the creator of Shame to Resilience, a structured workshop helping men move from shame and secrecy into accountability, integrity, and rebuilt trust after betrayal.

His work blends mindfulness-based interventions, neurobiology, and evidence-based therapy with a deeply human belief: that everyone is worthy of help — and capable of healing.

Project 01 • Clinical Care

Novus Mindful Life Institute

If you're trapped in a cycle of compulsive sexual behavior, pornography use, or struggling to recover after betrayal — Novus is where the clinical work happens.

Founded by Duane and built around a relational, evidence-based model, Novus is a California-based counseling practice serving individuals, partners, and couples through both in-person therapy in Garden Grove and secure online sessions across California, Idaho, Florida, Texas, and Virginia.

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Who It's For

"I'm ready to get help — I just don't know where to start."

You've tried quitting on your own. You've made promises. You're tired of the secrecy, the shame, the toll it's taking on the people you love.

Or maybe you're the partner — blindsided, grieving, asking how something this painful even becomes possible.

Novus meets you exactly where you are, with a clear plan and a team that has done this work for years.

Top 100 Mental Health Podcast

"What's actually happening in my brain — and how do I change it?"

Every week, Duane sits down with leading researchers, clinicians, and people in recovery to make the science of addiction clear, human, and actually useful.

Whether you're early in recovery, supporting someone you love, or a clinician sharpening your practice — there's an episode waiting that meets you exactly where you are.

4.7 ★★★★★

622+ reviews • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • Goodpods Top 100

Project 02 • Podcast & Education

The Addicted Mind Podcast

A weekly conversation about the science of addiction, the neurobiology of recovery, and the real, human stories behind lasting change — hosted by Duane since 2018.

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Project 03 • The Program for Men & Couples

Shame to Resilience

For the man who has caused harm — and is finally ready to do the real work.

Shame to Resilience is a structured 10-week program built specifically for men healing themselves and their relationships after infidelity, betrayal, or compulsive sexual behavior. No platitudes. No quick fixes. Just a proven path out of shame and into accountability, integrity, and rebuilt trust. This program is built with betrayed partners at the center.

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Who It's For

"I want to be the man my partner deserves — not the one who broke her trust."

You know the apologies aren't enough. You've felt the shame collapse into something heavier than guilt — a sense that you are the problem.

This workshop is built on a hard truth and a hopeful one: shame keeps you stuck, but it doesn't have to define you. There's a way through, and it starts with showing up.

Live, online, and run in cohorts so you're never doing it alone.

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Shame to Resilience on YouTube

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Short talks, teachings, and stories on healing shame, rebuilding trust, and the path from betrayal to integrity — subscribe to the Shame to Resilience channel for new videos with Duane Osterlind, LMFT.

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After Infidelity: The Shame That Keeps You Collapsed And How to Stand Again

After Infidelity: The Shame That Keeps You Collapsed And How to Stand Again | Dr. Alex Katehakis
The Secret Keeper: Where Betrayal Really Begins

The Secret Keeper: Where Betrayal Really Begins | PART 3 of 4 | Dr. Stan Tatkin
Am I Weak for Staying? The Shame of Not Leaving After Infidelity

Am I Weak for Staying? The Shame of Not Leaving After Infidelity | Tammy Gustafson

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Occasional notes from Duane — new podcast episodes, workshop dates, and tools you can use in your own healing.

Get in touch.

For clinical inquiries, podcast guesting, speaking, or workshop questions:

562-431-5100

Frequently Asked

Common questions about Duane's work

Who is Duane Osterlind? +

Duane Osterlind is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT-S) based in Garden Grove, California. He is the founder of Novus Mindful Life Institute, host of The Addicted Mind Podcast (a top-100 Apple Podcasts mental health show), and creator of the Shame to Resilience workshop for men recovering from betrayal and compulsive behavior.

What kind of therapy does Duane offer? +

Through Novus Mindful Life, Duane and his team specialize in sex and porn addiction recovery, betrayal trauma counseling for partners, couples therapy after infidelity, and group therapy for men and women. The clinical approach is relational, evidence-based, and trauma-informed — grounded in CSAT, attachment theory, mindfulness, and cognitive behavioral therapy.

Where is Duane Osterlind's practice located? +

Novus Mindful Life Institute is located at 12832 Valley View Street, Suite 107, Garden Grove, CA 92845, serving clients across Orange County and Long Beach — with secure telehealth sessions available throughout California, Idaho, Florida, Texas, and Virginia.

Is The Addicted Mind Podcast free? +

Yes. The Addicted Mind Podcast is free to listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and most major podcast platforms. New episodes explore the neuroscience of addiction, recovery stories, and conversations with leading researchers and clinicians. The show has surpassed 300 episodes and consistently ranks in Apple's Top 100 Mental Health charts.

Who is Shame to Resilience for? +

Shame to Resilience is a structured workshop for men who have caused harm in their primary relationship through compulsive sexual behavior, infidelity, or betrayal. It is designed for men who are ready to take accountability, do the work of repair, and become the partner they want to be. The program combines group support, education, and guided clinical exercises.

How do I start working with Duane or his team? +

The most direct path is to reach out through Novus Mindful Life, where intake coordinators will pair you with a CSAT-certified clinician and schedule a session within 1–2 days. For workshop interest, contact Shame to Resilience directly. For podcast guest inquiries, speaking engagements, or media, call 562-431-5100.